we can really use that more than ever in these times.
Posted: Sat Feb 01, 2025 10:16 am
I am always happy to receive feedback on the results of this exercise – for example by mentioning it on a social network.
Content statements versus core messages
If you find it difficult to speak too positively about yourself in a group or workshop, you could start by working on self-confident core messages alone or in a one-on-one coaching session. These are statements that can be implicitly derived from everything that the person says, for example on social networks.
Whether we work on them or not, we all actually have such core messages, whether consciously or unconsciously. They are nothing other than the image we create in others, not only by what we say or do, but above all by how we do it.
Example: In a LinkedIn post on a technical topic, someone bank data describes a situation in detail, clearly and with great knowledge gain for their own contacts. This post has a substantive statement related to the situation in question.
The core message that can be derived from this is, for example: “I am THE expert in my field, and anyone who deals with this topic cannot ignore me.”
Bragging or authentic?
If the person in question were to simply claim something like that, it could come across to others as boasting - at least as long as it is not proven and backed up with content. If the person in question proves it and the other person deduces it themselves, this is much more credible. But that does not mean leaving the random deduction to the other person, but being aware of the effect you want to achieve.
However, this already seems too calculated and planned to many people. In my view, there is nothing dishonorable about assessing yourself realistically. Especially since a contrived or poorly founded core message cannot work anyway.
Content statements versus core messages
If you find it difficult to speak too positively about yourself in a group or workshop, you could start by working on self-confident core messages alone or in a one-on-one coaching session. These are statements that can be implicitly derived from everything that the person says, for example on social networks.
Whether we work on them or not, we all actually have such core messages, whether consciously or unconsciously. They are nothing other than the image we create in others, not only by what we say or do, but above all by how we do it.
Example: In a LinkedIn post on a technical topic, someone bank data describes a situation in detail, clearly and with great knowledge gain for their own contacts. This post has a substantive statement related to the situation in question.
The core message that can be derived from this is, for example: “I am THE expert in my field, and anyone who deals with this topic cannot ignore me.”
Bragging or authentic?
If the person in question were to simply claim something like that, it could come across to others as boasting - at least as long as it is not proven and backed up with content. If the person in question proves it and the other person deduces it themselves, this is much more credible. But that does not mean leaving the random deduction to the other person, but being aware of the effect you want to achieve.
However, this already seems too calculated and planned to many people. In my view, there is nothing dishonorable about assessing yourself realistically. Especially since a contrived or poorly founded core message cannot work anyway.